tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6743736269119210447.post8030914215673103666..comments2023-09-19T17:50:20.062+10:00Comments on The Belly Rules Blog: Going to the "chapel" ...K_Bomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09584622212381022630noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6743736269119210447.post-34755779830873367032010-12-01T18:56:38.954+11:002010-12-01T18:56:38.954+11:00Thanks lovely; I agree with everything you say. I...Thanks lovely; I agree with everything you say. I'm sorry I missed your wedding but I was sneaking off to get married myself! You know I was with you in spirit. :-)K_Bomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09584622212381022630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6743736269119210447.post-39739043311765082622010-12-01T07:59:26.505+11:002010-12-01T07:59:26.505+11:00Ah, all that goes with a wedding! :)
Thanks so muc...Ah, all that goes with a wedding! :)<br />Thanks so much for sharing this. It is always wonderful to hear of anothers journey in to marriage. There was much contemplation about my own wedding. L and I were overseas at the time he proposed and there was some serious discussion about if we just arrived home "job done." <br />After some pondering L decided he wanted the family to be present. There was also the matter that Daylesford had always felt like home to us and we had decided some time ago if we were to be married, that was the place for us. We would come together in a place which we both felt so connected with. On my part I have always been drawn to ceremony and the celebration of rites of passage. When the decission of how we would be married was made, we made a strong committment that the celebration would be every bit about the marriage and not about the wedding. <br />The parents of course had their wish list and I was happy to oblige when it came to their requests. We weren't going to have a cake or photographer, but the parents wanted it. When I thought about it, we had everything we wanted. We wanted to be married by a woman and had found an incredible celebrant who we connected with and was very supportive and encouraging of the 'pagan' ceremony we wanted. I didn't want to get married in white and had found a dress which represented me perfectly. Most importantly, I was going to marry the man I love. There was nothing more I required and I was fortunate to miss the bridzilla frenzy. Possibly because I had a sister to fend off bridzilla triggers, but mostly because I had everything I wanted, L. Nothing else was important. As it turns out the cake was ugly and not at all what I asked for. I actually laughed hysterically when I opened the box and said "F*** that is ugly". The photographer, an amazing, talented wonderful person who I am so glad we were able to meet, really contributed to our day.<br />So, in saying all this. The when and how is of so little relevance. I've never understood the post wedding reflection of what was thought of the food, the dress, the flowers, the music. For me the question after each wedding is "are they gloriously happy and fulfilled by each others love?" If the answer is yes, than it can be nothing less than a magical, beautiful wedding, regardless of mine or anyone else's presence or how the couple choose to be married.<br />For me J's wedding was a very special one. We have known each other since the age of five. Your family has been a huge part of my life. We have shared in some of the happiest moments and some of the saddest moments in life. We have seen each other at our best and seen each other at our worst.<br />The growth and support of a community of women is something which is very important in my life and it was very apporpriate that the day after J's wedding I attended a workshop honouring that growth and journey through life for women. From one key event to another. J and I shared with each other when we commmenced menstruating - our journey in to womanhood and it was an honour for me to be present as she journeyed to the next stage. Would it have made any difference had she decided to get married in any other way? Absolutely not. Whether present or not, cake or no cake, many or few guests, the assessment could be made. <br />"Are they gloriously happy and fulfilled by each others love?" Absolutely. What a magical & beautiful wedding. :)RJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16701762804752868380noreply@blogger.com